Why is it so Difficult to Ask for Help?

Dear Friends,

It finally clicked for me why it’s so hard to ask for help. Not only do we live in a society that celebrates independence and self-sufficiency, but also culturally, we laud the virtue of hard work. Now in our 24/7 world, accessibility can trump family time, even on the Dumbo ride. And the new norm among the retired set is vying for “Who’s Busier?” bragging rights.

On the home front, we’re just one generation removed from exhortations to “greet your husband with a warm smile and sincere desire to please.” We may not always realize the expectations that surround us and the ones we place on ourselves. As my friend, Christine, so aptly puts it, “We were raised to believe we could do it all, and now we’re having to do it all.”

There are many forces that drive us into this self-sufficiency syndrome.

Awareness and learning to ask for help are the first steps to recovery. The real measure of progress is when we no longer have to ‘ask’ because running the ‘Family’ Business’ has become everyone’s job. This is Heard It From A Friend’s mission!

With best wishes,

Julie Paul
Founder and CEO

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Our goal is to understand your family’s scenario and match you to the best resources. But we won’t stop there, we’ll make sure you get them up and running.

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